Chapter 6: Control

Control: the power to influence or direct other peoples behaviors or events.

Pretty unrealistic huh? How we can we control other peoples behaviors or events? We are only in control of our selves, our reactions, and actions. We are not placed in an all-powerful position of ruler of the universe. So why do we do it?

At some point, we were told that only were responsible for things that were beyond our control, or others placed unrealistic expectations upon us, or an event that sent us into a tailspin, we place self- blame for occurs.

However, we spend the rest of our lives fighting, to stay on our feet, when in reality if we let go of control, we could experience the blessings the world and universe have to offer.

I spent the last month, trying to get someone who I thought saw me as important as I was to them to speak to me. Trying to get a job to give me more hours, and even trying to improve my situation, the way I thought I needed too and on my time.

By letting go of control, I also let go of responsibility for a stressful situation that I never had power over, to begin with. My anxiety ceased, and my world became calm. The circumstances started to rectify themselves. I could focus on the positive. This made me feel as if I was working with a path that was already designed for me. In fact, it already was, but trying to control everything, was like taking a left turn when I needed to naturally go right.

Now, when we stop trying so hard, it may feel like we are giving up, but we are saying is," I am human, and I do not know what way is best, or I will be happy either way.". This is making a conscious choice to allow, whatever happens, to occur, without a reaction but rather a response.

My personal story of this was letting go of someone, who I knew was toxic but I wanted to be in my life in hopes he would change, and things would be better. I hoped I was wrong, about him and how he was acting.

I was trying to control my income, that was severely lacking, in hopes that gaining employment faster, would help me to achieve my goals instead of being stuck in a situation. These added unneeded stress, and heartbreak. I would throw myself into panic fits because I would ruminate over what was going on. As, if I could fix this all on my own that very second.

I let go, and in a week, I had work figuratively throwing hours at me. I just signed a lease for a fantastic apartment, and even received the money to update my vehicle registration. As for my ex, well I soon put together that he was not the one, and he had his own issues. Something that no matter, how much I changed or controlled on my end would get better. He made his own decisions and how he treated me, showed me his true colors.

I would suggest imagining , all of the stuff weighing you down as a balloon, and letting it go. Sending it out as dirty or negative energy and breathing in new energy. Find ways to let go, and understand it is a process, and requires time, patience and energy.

So let go of control, even though it is scary. Embrace the unknown and be surprised. Bless it be!